This blog is where I can pour out my heart with my longing for God.

I’ve been a little more sentimental lately. (I wasn’t even sure that was possible since my children avow I would have a lock on the “Sentimental Sap” award every year.)

But it’s true.

I’ve been more conscious of the passage of time, the loss of simplicity in American life, the need to go back to the restful old paths (my most common theme). Last week on June 28, I even posted a short clip from The Andy Griffith Show onto my Times of Refreshing Facebook page with a status that read: “This little snippet from the Andy Griffith show fits my mood today. We are too much in a hurry! Watch how this harried man becomes calm as he hears Andy and Barney sing an old hymn. Come on and watch it and agree with me that we need to slow down and find the old paths of life.”

I even posted the clip on my personal Facebook wall, with the status of “I became calmer just watching this. See how walking the old paths brings rest to our souls (Jeremiah 6:16)?”

The clip was from an episode entitled “Man in a Hurry.” This man who cannot enjoy life for always being in a hurry begins to find a measure of peace as he hears Andy strum the guitar on the front porch, singing “Church in the Wildwood,” accompanied by Barney’s tenor harmony. The contrast is marked as the man paces back and forth while the restful singing goes forth.

As I was choosing the YouTube clip, I also watched one in which Andy plays the guitar and sings “There Is a Time.” That one made me so sad regarding the passage of time that I quickly exited it.

Well, today, I posted that one on my wall. Because today, Andy Griffith died.

I heard the news about mid-morning as I logged into Facebook and saw a status that read, “R.I.P. Sheriff Taylor.” I gasped and cried out to the hubster, “Oh no! Andy Griffith is dead!” I suddenly began to cry, and the hubster came rushing over to the couch to put his arms around me and comfort me.

I was shocked–not only that Andy had passed away, but also that I was so shaken. If you had told me last week that I would be sobbing over Andy Griffith’s death, I would’ve looked at you strangely. Become sad? Maybe. Actually shed tears? No way.

But when it actually happened, my grief was very real. I went back and watched the clip I posted last week and cried some more. I posted the “There Is a Time” clip, watched it again and cried even harder. A couple of hours later, I posted the song “I Miss Mayberry” by Rascal Flatts with a video tribute to The Andy Griffith Show. And I boohooed a little more.

Call me a glutton for punishment, but a few hours after that, I posted a short clip of the episode in which Andy persuades Opie to let his caged birds go free. When the following dialogue took place–Opie: “Cage sure looks awful empty, don’t it, Paw?” Andy: “Yes, Son, it sure does. But don’t the trees seem nice and full?”–I broke down yet again.

Now maybe it’s hormones today, but then again, maybe it AIN’T.

I’ve seen a similar reaction all over America as news of Andy’s death spread like wildfire. One local TV news channel devoted all day to remembering Andy Griffith. Specials on his life abounded. I saw grown men cry as they were interviewed for news specials.

Why did Andy’s death affect us this way? He was 86, he had lived a good life, he seemed ready to go by Christian standards. Why are we unable to let the good Sheriff Taylor go gently into that good night?

Because I believe his death signified the ending of an era–an era that represented to us a simpler time of our existence, that reminded us of our childhood, that is rapidly fading into the mists of yesteryear. As long as Sheriff Taylor was alive, Mayberry seemed to still exist somewhere. There was the hope that we could somehow regain even an iota of that peaceful lifestyle.

The Mayberry state of mind crosses gender, race, culture. The Andy Griffith Show was all about white people, yet I saw countless black people interviewed today–all of them lamenting Andy’s passing. Women today primarily work outside the home and wear jeans like the men–unlike most of the Mayberry women who stayed home, wore dresses and lived to cook for their families–yet these modern women shed tears today at the loss of Mayberry’s native son.

It would be almost unAmerican to say you were unaffected by Andy’s death. Don’t we all recognize the opening theme just as soon as the first bar is whistled? Who hasn’t tried whistling that themselves? Don’t we all laugh when Barney says, “Nip it. Nip it in the bud!”? At one time or another, haven’t we all tried to mimic Goober’s Cary Grant impression of “Judy, Judy, Judy”?

It hits us in the collective gut of nostalgia to hear Andy is no more on earth. Who’s gonna make sure Barney keeps that bullet in his shirt pocket? Who’s gonna lock up Otis for public drunkenness and bring him some of Aunt Bee’s good cornbread in the jail cell? Who’s gonna catch Ernest T. Bass when he’s chunking rocks through storefront windows? And for that matter, who’s gonna sit around and pick and grin with the Darlings?

The days of my childhood are long gone. No more Sunday afternoons under Grandpa Bray’s shady old oaks while neighbors and relatives drop in to sit in web-design lawn chairs and discuss if the blue mold’s taking the ‘baccer, how many quarts of green beans they’ve put up for the winter, how hot this July weather has been. No more swimming in the creek with the cousins after we’ve wandered through Grandpa’s pastures and picked blackberries. No more catching lightning bugs and putting them in pop bottles on summer evenings while Uncle Sam played “Uncle Pen” or “Let Me Be Your Salty Dog” as my daddy and the other uncles sang along.

But there is one thing that remains from my childhood days. The Andy Griffith Show. It was on the air before I was born, and it has never once gone off the air since the last episode was filmed in 1968. I can click on my TV every day at 5:30 p.m. and catch it on a local channel even now. It is one of the last existing ties to my childhood. I have never known a day of life without Sheriff Taylor.

Until today.

Yes, I know The Andy Griffith Show will probably run until I’m long gone. But losing Andy somehow makes the show seem even farther back in time, even more removed from modern life.

We strain a little harder to reach back to a time when Aunt Bee was pleased as punch to keep her Taylor boys well-fed, when Opie always had his “Paw” to confide in, when Andy strummed his guitar on the front porch while Barney stretched and said, “Well, I think I’ll go down to the corner and get me a bottle of pop.” Pause. “Yep, I figure I’ll mosey on down to the corner and get me a pop.” Another pause and stretch, “That’s the plan. Head on down to the corner and get me a bottle of pop.”

Lest life seem overly perfect, Mayberry had its thorny issues. Aunt Bee faced pickling problems and was ever challenged by her bosom buddy Clara Edwards. Opie sometimes told fibs and had to confess to “Paw.” Barney often sneaked off to call Juanita down at the diner and serenade her while poor Thelma Lou was at home alone. Ernest T. Bass turned up with his violent ways at all the wrong times. And Otis just kept a-drinkin’.

But still, Mayberry life seems ideal to us today in our rush-rush-hurry-hurry work-a-day world. There was a sense of community that we are lacking. Neighbors took time to sit on the porch and visit. Floyd’s Barber Shop was a hangout for the men. The Pyle boys–Gomer and Goober–were ever-present when a helping hand was needed.

Andy’s job of sheriff kept him on call around the clock. But he somehow found time to spread a quilt on the green grass to picnic with his best gal, Helen Crump. He took Opie down to the fishing hole and maybe whistled while he went. He made time to play his music with the Darlings, complete with a gen-u-INE jug instrument.

You skeptics are thinking, “Get a grip, Leslie. Mayberry is a fictional town on television, for goodness sake!”

Yes. Yes, it is. But Mayberry is more than a made-up town. It’s a state of mind, I’ve heard people say. And it’s most certainly MY state of mind.

Because I remember those times. I was part of the Forest Chapel Community Club where we had potluck dinners with the neighbors, and where grandmas, uncles, aunts, cousins played against each other in Rook tournaments. We had three TV channels, no cell phones, no computers, no video games. My social networking involved bouncing the basketball loudly in the yard in hopes that my neighbors across the road would hear me and come out to play “HORSE.”

THAT’S why we cry over Andy’s passing. Because many of us still long for the Mayberry state of mind where life flows peacefully and seems to move in slow motion compared to the jet-fast pace of modernity. A place where Ange is patiently advising the Barneys among us, licking his lips saying “Mmm, Mmm!” over Aunt Bee’s pork chops, calmly counseling a penitent Opie, singing and playing for us at the end of a hectic day.

The faster we move through life, the more we yearn for the old paths of life. Andy was representative of that rustic, slow-paced way of living. And now he’s gone.

Nope, we’re not just mourning the passing of Andy. We’re mourning the passage of an era that will never come again.

Thank God that way of life, as well as Andy, will live on through reruns of his show. We’ll continue to tune in and reminisce and laugh and wish it could be that simple again.


Comments on: "The Old Paths: Mayberry is my state of mind" (15)

  1. Melissa Fleming said:

    Thank you, Leslie! Your words were my thoughts, as well. And I can’t stop crying, either…!

    • Thank you for this, Melissa. You could’ve written it even better, I’ll bet. Love your writing. We are watching Andy Griffith reruns today and I am telling the kids how this even relates to our Independence Day celebration–because THIS is the America we have lost and need to get back.

  2. Very nice tribute. I do miss Mayberry. I think I need a Cherry Coke.

    • Thank you, Ms. Fennah! I miss Mayberry, too, but I don’t really care for Cherry Coke–ha ha! But I do like sitting on the porch. . .where people pass by and they call you by your first name (like I didn’t when I addressed you–ha ha!).

  3. Not sure how I found this, but it is my heart, also. We’re watching old AG reruns today, too. I grew up in a Mayberry, in a small town in Mississippi. But the Mayberry part of it is what I remember — that state of mind. When my 12 year old said that she wished we had Mayberrys today, I tried to explain to her that Mayberry was created from the goodness we experience and the goodness we hope for. Andy, we’ll miss you. But so thankful for the reminder, every day, that we can all experience a little of Mayberry in our hearts.

    • I am so glad you found this! It’s good to hear from somebody from another state. Most of us are North Carolina folks who grew up within a few miles of where Andy grew up. We often go up to “Mt. Pilot,” as he called it (Pilot Mountain to us). I love what your daughter said and how you replied. I am going to remember that! Thanks so much for reading this blog. And thank you for becoming a follower.

      • I read a few more of your posts, and I think we actually have a lot in common. I also have 5 blessings and have been privileged to home school them all. My 2 oldest live on opposite ends of the country (Maryland & Seattle), my son is in college in MO, and 2 daughters are still with us. We actually moved from east TX to Denver a year ago (we’d been there forever) — and my dream is to live in NC! Not sure if we’ll ever get there, but I truly love the state, so it’s fitting that I’m following your blog. I visited Blowing Rock a few years ago with a dear friend to celebrate our birthdays (big Jan Karon fans) and fell in love with it.

      • Wow! We DO have a lot in common. We are pickling and cleaning today, but when I have time, I want to check out your blog and of course become a follower. My 2 oldest daughters live together–about 25 miles from me–so I see them often. They are coming over tonight for supper. You know what’s funny? My hubster and I would love to live in CO but feel called to NC–ha ha! And you’re in CO and want to be here. 😀 Next time you come to NC, I’d like to meet you. We hope to visit CO again, too (went briefly through Denver last Sept. but mainly stayed down near Durango). Thanks for making this connection–I look forward to us being blog friends!

      • Be sure to let me know if you come through Denver again! We have plenty of room if you need a place. I’d love to meet you, too!

  4. Kaye moorefield said:

    Thank you Leslie. You have put into words what a lot of us are feeling. The simplicity of life has passed us by, and I for one miss it. If we can’t have it in reality, we will always have it with Andy and the Mayberry folks and for that I am grateful.

    • You are so right, Kaye. I think so many of us miss it and aspire to at least get it back in tiny ways in this modern world. I hope Andy never goes off the air! Thanks for reading. 🙂

  5. I just found your blog today.Thank you for your thoughts about Mayberry and Andy. My son and I spent the day in Mount Airy this past Friday, the “Mayberry” part. It was a special day, in part because of the whole Mayberry experience, but also because he’s getting ready to go to college. It was great to spend this special time together. I can definitely relate to your thoughts about the passage of time.

    I’ve been an Andy Griffith Show fan as long as I can remember, and even though Andy (and sadly most of the cast) is gone now, we can still revisit Mayberry whenever we want via TV and DVDs. And in our own minds and memories.

    • Thank you for this comment, Barry, and for reading my blog. My kids and I are watching every episode of The Andy Griffith Show in order and loving it. We’ve seen many of them already, but it never gets old! I empathize with you on how you feel at this time in your life with your son leaving for college. I’ve sent two off already and have three to go; just thinking about sending the next one off makes me sort of weepy. :/ I wish him (and you!) the best.

  6. Rick Smith said:

    Wonderfully written article about small town Americana (aka Mayberry). I often describe the “Man In a Hurry” episode as the definitive chapter of The Andy Griffith Show.

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